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Handling girls

Handling the girls
Be busy - attract girls by being "busy".
Suggest competition - keep her on her toes.
Put a price on yourself - the more you "cost", the more value she attributes to you.
Show a willingness to walk away - don't let her take you for granted.
Use her friends - by realising, that "friendship" also means "rivalry".
Judge her by her actions, not by her words - or rather, let her actions speak the words.
Have and reveal secrets - provide a constant thrill for the woman.
If she compliments you - make her feel good for having done that
Act like its special - and what you have can not be found anywhere else.
Paying her a complimen-how to do it right.
Cook for her and "date" at home
When should you call a woman after having sex with her? - don't blow it, she'll be very sensitive and tender about this one.
Managing many relationships at once - best policy is (tailored) honesty.

Attract girls by being busy

Let the girls know that you are a busy and important person.

Don Diebel:

When a girl asks you what you did yesterday, never say, "Oh, I just sat around and was bored." Better to say, "I was up early to run errands and take care of business, then played tennis, met a friend for lunch, and worked in the afternoon." Lie if you have to. And don't worry, you'll get used to it.

If a girl calls and asks what you are doing, reply with, "I just walked in the door" or "I'm just on my way out to take care of business."
Don't hang on the the phone for hours talking to girls indicating you don't have anything else to do. Get the business of the call over, be pleasant, then excuse yourself.

By not calling a girl every night or contacting her every day, you show that you are busy and have other things that are important in your life besides her. This lets her know that she is going to have to compete for your time.

By letting people know that you are a person doing things and active, you suggest a lot to a girl. Certainly, you must be someone who knows where you are going, hence, leadership. You play on her sense of wanting what she can't have because she will have to compete for your time with all of your other activities. You will appear to be different from all the other guys who are hanging on her begging for her time. She will suspect that there are other girls in your life or you wouldn't be so busy. And finally, she is going to have to use her charms to seduce you away from all these other activities - and girls just love a challenge:)

Update. Craig, Clifford's Seduction newsletter: "Make her miss you. But in order for scarcity to be effective you have to be sure of one thing. The time she does spend with you must be absolutely amazing, and without a doubt the best time she could have with anyone. You need to be able to create an awesome, MEMORABLE experience with anyone, anywhere, especially when it really counts.Also, she can NEVER be the first priority in your life. Always put her second to something, whether it be your family, career, friends, whatever, but leave a small piece of hope in her mind that she could become #1."

Suggest competition

When you first get to know a girl, it would be better if she suspects that you are seeing other women as well as her. It makes you more attractive to her and she knows she will have to work hard to get you. Have names and numbers of other girls popping out of your wallet (when paying for yourself of course, not her:) or have them laying around in your house/apartment/car, don't be desperate for her (best way to accomplish this is to have some 5 other girlfriends at the same time:), don't be available at all times, be slightly unpredictable in your actions (this is also good for keeping her on her toes in general:)

Put a price on yourself

Ross Jeffries: "And one of the most true and powerful realities of human nature is: IF SOMETHING COMES AT VERY LITTLE COST, PEOPLE TEND TO THINK IT IS OF LITTLE VALUE! We believe that things that are difficult to possess are inherently of better quality and that things that are easy to posses are of little value or quality. In other words, absent knowing what something can do for them, people will make a judgement based on what they have to give up to get it. They confuse price with value.

At the appropriate place and time, SHOW YOUR ANGER!! Guys who never get mad, who never show that they will stand up for themselves and make a woman feel a bit of unpleasantness are, in effect, giving themselves away for free!! Let the females in your life know that if they break your rules, cross you, or show any lack of respect that THEY ARE GOING TO PAY A PRICE!
Be willing to withdraw your time and attention and be unavailable!

A. Now and again, cancel dates.
B. Don't always return her phone calls promptly
C. On occasion, and especially in the beginning, GET OFF THE PHONE FIRST!! Don't have unlimited time or willingness to talk!!

That should get her viewing you as scarce and therefore a lot more valuable and therefore something... She's Willing To Pay A Hell Of A Lot More To Get!! Now the final, and perhaps the most important rule I can give you is: Let Women (and people in general) Know What Your Rules Are And What You Expect Of Them!!! Now, I didn't say whine or demand.

Update. Craig, Clifford's Seduction newsletter: "Make her put some work into hanging out with you in order for her to value you. Make her come and pick you up, make her spend some money on you, make her call and do you favors, etc. When she does things for you it will justify her own feelings for you and allow them to grow."

Show a willingness to walk away

Ross Jeffries: "You see, after years of experience and study, I've come to the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you! Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value, and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that's challenging you. By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: nowhere! And that's why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you've seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!!"

Use her friends

Ross Jeffries: "Flowers work wonders on young chicks, especially if you give them to her in front of her friends. Always let her friends know (by being, not saying) you are a great guy. Never ever underestimate a girl's desire to make her friends jealous of her man. In addition to that, always let her think her friends want you. you can make slight comments that make her think that just maybe there is the smallest chance you'll go for one of her friends if she doesn't do right by you. Or you can go the other way and do things like say, "You friend Sarah has a huge ass... you're so much better looking than her" etc. A girl's friends are a fantastic tool."

Judge her by her actions, not her words

In the words of Ross Jeffries: "WATCH WHAT YOUR PROSPECTS DO AND NOT WHAT THEY SAY!! Especially with women who are excellent excuse makers and bamboozlers. The ONLY real key to a prospect being qualified is THE ACTION SHE TAKES! ALWAYS LOOK FIRST AND FOREMOST AT HOW A WOMAN IS TREATING YOU AND IF YOU ARE BEING TREATED WITH PRIORITY AND RESPECT. ONLY THEN LOOK AT THE CHARACTERISTICS AND QUALITIES YOU LIKE IN THAT WOMAN!

One of the primary differences between "jerks" and "nice guys" is what they focus on. The jerk is first and foremost focused on how he is being treated and each move he makes is put through the test: "will this increase or decrease the priority she gives me?". If the answer is decrease... THE JERK DOESN'T DO IT!!! Nice guys (chronic masturbators) by way of contrast, focus on the characteristics they like in the girl. They ignore or overlook rude behaviour from her. They act to show their appreciation and interest in her rather than to get respect which is why, like Rodney Dangerfield... THEY DON'T GET ANY!!!"

Have and reveal secrets

If you've ever wondered, how to reconcile the seeming discrepancy between the two most common things you've heard about women, namely:

women like mystery in a man
women like to know secrets about a man

then here's an explanation by Kate Reynolds from Mindlist:

"A short time ago there was a thread about revealing secrets as a way to gain rapport. IMHO this really is a great way to establish rapport, but it can be carried too far. I (and perhaps other women) like the idea of layers. Like peeling an onion, we like to think there is always more that we don't know yet. So, sharing a secret is fine as long as you convey the idea that there are lots more - and that you are willing to give some up for a price. I grow bored when I think I know all there is to know about someone."

If she compliments you

Don't be an ignorant bum, thank her: "How nice of you to say that, you are a very sweet person:)". Makes her feel good to have complimented you:) Don't start playing modest and fending it off "oh no, I'm not, no-no-no". But neither should you ungratefully and self-servingly declare "That's right, you noticed, finally, good!". No.

Just make her feel good having complimented you:) See "David Shade's online seduction" for an example of putting it to good use.

Act like the two of you have something really special going on

Ross Jeffries: "Always act and speak as if you two have something really special going on that can't be found anywhere else. This is a good attitude to have all the time. Don't just tell her you do, that gives her a chance to evaluate it and (god forbid) decide that's not the case." Say things like you are glad that you do have such a really special thing going and keep elaborating on the glad feeling. In the back of her mind she'll accept that you do have a special thing going - she has to in order to understand why you are glad

Paying her a compliment

Complimenting a girl is a double-edged sword. It has been known to go great lenghts and it has also been know to stop an advance dead in its tracks. Some girls will hang on to a guy who keeps complimenting them no matter what, other girls dismiss a guy that pays them a compliment as just another chump.

More than anything else, whether to compliment her or not depends on how you can pull it off. Being hesitant or bland about your compliment to a girl that usually loves and craves for compliments, can make her frown with scorn and turn her back on you. And being sincerely passionate and unique about your compliment to a girl that usually dismisses complimenters as chumps, can make her fall into your arms with a longing sigh.

The first fule of complimenting - don't compliment the obvious. She knows about the obvious, she has heard compliments about it before and if you do it, you'll automatically be associated with all the chumps that got nowhere with her with their compliments about the obvious.

The second rule of complimenting - do compliment the existent but not so obvious. This makes you stand out as it shows that you've actually invested some thought and have been more perceptive about her than others. When paying the compliment, don't just say you like this and that about her. Describe exactly why you like this and that, describe how this and that about her makes you feel - she'll be listening to you and feeling it alongside you.

The third rule of complimenting - compliments tend to linger in the minds of the ones that receive them. The more reason for you to pay only the "right" compliments. For each time she thinks of the compliment and it was "right", she'll think of you in an affectionate manner.

Update. Body compliments are better avoided in the initial stages of your interaction with the girl. Maxim (http://maximmag.com):

“It makes me uncomfortable if a guy comments on my body in any way, as in `You look really good in that skirt.’ That’s way too familiar for just meeting someone. It’s too obvious that you’re trying to pick me up. —Karen, 27, St. Paul”

But do compliment the parts of her body that you like later in the relationship and she'll adore you for it, for now you are someone who's opinion actually matters to her and thus you have the power to make her happy. So yes, women crave for body compliments just as much or even more than personality compliments, just don't make the mistake of paying those compliments early into meeting her or you'll come off as a horny pervert trying for a cheap pick-up.

Cook for her and "date" at home

(Adapted from Don Diebel)

women ideal date involves the man cooking them dinner. The best places to pick up women are those where they go to eat. Women are truly slaves to the sensuality of food. If you make a dinner, you are providing them with sensual pleasure that they will associate with you.

Moreover, there is an air of competence and self-assurance that this automatically gives a man in their eyes. Women LOVE feeling taken care of and provided for (for obvious evolutionary reasons) and you making them dinner brings all of that.

Last, but very much not least, this turns your date instead of an encounter in a public place into a private rendezvous in a place where you can go… right to bed, should she feel like that:) And believe me, she will:)

It is disappointing to have the occasional problem where during the date the woman is very much in the mood but during the drive back she slips out of the mood, either due to internal considerations or due to something that happens during the drive back etc. Having the "date" at home - either by having lunch or dinner there

When should you call a woman after having sex with her?

Don Diebel:

After you have had sex with a woman you must call her the very next day (this is especially critical for a woman you have just met or very early in a relationship.) So, what's the big deal? It's a very, very big deal to a woman giving her body to you. It's very special to her and she expects to hear from you the next day. If she doesn't she will feel used and that you don't have any respect for her. The bad thing about this is she may be so upset and angry towards you that she won't care to have intimate relations with you again and that's bad news for you. You really need to call her the next day just out of respect, if for no other reason.

There's an exception to the rule. That is if you really were just using her for sex and don't care to see her again. In other words, a one-night stand. If it really was just a one-night stand, don't lead her on by misleading her into thinking that you care for her and want to start a relationship with her. Just don't call her at all."

Managing many relationships at once

Chasing other girls while being in a relationship with one girl is percieved as a cruel and insensitive thing to do. And it is - assuming a one-on-one relationship is the norm. it is quite natural for her to assume, that you are doing that to have ensuing one-on-one relationships with those other girls, thus abandoning her and leaving her all alone. She will feel miserable, deceived, unhappy etc and you are the cause of all that.

So have you been cruel and insensitive? Yes. For having chased other girls? No. You have been cruel and insensitive for having established a one-on-one relationship and thus giving her grounds to assume that your chasing other girls will mean the end of your relationship with her. Of course, you can do all the explaining you want with her now, but the fact is - you have been leading her in a false direction.

In order to avoid any such unpleasant consequences, frame your relationship with her the way _you_ would like to see it from the start. If you want to be with her but not with her exclusively, let her know. If she walks then most probably she wouldn't have fitted into your future anyway. If she stays, it has been _her_ decision to accept your terms and now you won't have to worry about keeping your possible "adventures" a secret from her or how hurt she might feel if they came to her knowledge, she won't have to feel paranoid, jealeous or miserable because she knows, that as the two of you are not in a strict, traditional and monogamous one-on-one relationship, a new relationship of yours will not endanger her position the way it usually would, plus, should she feel like it, she is free to pursue any interests of hers without feelings of guilt or shame as well

So if you want relationships but don't want to be confined to them - be discreetly honest, tell her you want her but that you are already engaged in a couple of relationships of a more physical nature, and as those girls also know that neither of them is your only one, so should she, and now that she knows the situation, the decision as to a further course of action (either staying and accepting, or leaving) is up to her to make.

I have found that a practice that works very well, going with the above figures, is to keep from 5 to 6 women on the string at all times. 3 in "active" mode and at least 2 or 3 in the wings. I have found this to be a very good practice for being assured of being laid almost every night, if you so desire. If any of your 5 or 6 women start to get out of line and start giving you trouble, DUMP her immediately and replace her, always keeping the numbers right about the same.

The key of course here is OPTIONS. Generally, the more options you have, the better off you will always be. Just don't get TOO many - that can sometimes be just as bad or even worse than not having any options at all. So if you have any kind of life whatsoever other than just women, I think you will find TOTALLY accommodating about 3 of them to be just about a full time job."

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